- 24 Oct 2004, 17:33
#166
Assalamun Alaikum.
Dear sisters, you have all the rights in what you want to do and when to do but what matters is what you organise, where and how! If you we're at the lecture on Friday at the Alia Complex than i guess you remember what our Brother said about how guys are different compare to girls, its true, us guys can organise things and just walk out of the house without any questions from our parents but you girls cannot, why? Because a guy will recover his reputation in any other way or cover his mistakes but a girl will not be able to, a single mistake will destroy your life and reputation. These days most of our Shia girls have no mistakes but its the way what some guys think and like to play with girls reputation and its true! Especially from our community, guys are really on a bad track, for example; if they come to know that you girls have decided to play a game at the Boarding house, they will definately follow you there, am i right or not? I'am not trying to be rude but that's what the truth is, i know sometimes its unfair but we cant change things right? So what my point is that if you organise things on your own and include an elder and do what you want to so as to be on the safe side right? There are many ways you sisters can do what you want to, its not that you cant do it, no. Just try to be more on the safe side. People like to talk alot these days!
I have many friends from different religions and i have heard from most of them saying that "Shia girls are always protective and are on the safe side but only a few of them who are spoilt" And trust me, shia muslim girls are really on the safe side, just keep it that way. Dont compare your self with guys with their freedom because later on they're going to realise and its going to be really late for them to correct them selves.
If you think what i said is not true than please correct me.
Assalamun Alaikum warahmatullah.
as-Salaamu 'aleykum warahmatullah