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By abuali
#344
I am going to start this topic with a beautiful verse of the Holy Qur'an: -
[Shakir 17:24] And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! have compassion on them, as they brought me up (when I was) little.
Transliteration
Waikhfid lahuma janaha alththulli mina alrrahmati waqul rabbi irhamhuma kama rabbayanee sagheeran

Do we, the sons and daughters, understand the beauty and implications of this verse?
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By *Fatemah*
#355
nice verse hasin....i have somethin to share with everyone...this is a poem that i came across in a website it touched me so i thought of sharing it...its about a mother...enjoy!

A Mother really knows you,
A Mother really cares...
She keeps you in her fondest thoughts..
and always in her prayers...
she loves you very dearly,
as she has a right from the start..
and she's the one you turn to....when you need...
'A HELPING HEART'

...Treasure your mothers....!!!
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By *Fatema*
#502
salaam
i think that sometimes we the sons n daughters are the ones who dont really understand our parents i guess we always think that our parents get annoyed n lecture all the time all we do is say boring :x
but as to my point of view i guess that we should take our parents point of view into consideration coz they always want the best for us. wat do u think we should do?
*Fatema*
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By abuali
#635
Our beloved Nabi Mohammed said once, “Four [types of people’s] du’a are accepted: The just leader, a man who prays for his absent brother, the prayer of the oppressed person and the one who prays for his parents.”

The following is the dua of Imam Sajjad (AS) for his parents

O God,
bless Muhammad, Thy slave and Thy messenger,
and his Household, the pure,
and single them out for the best of Thy blessings,
Thy mercy,
Thy benedictions, and Thy peace!

And single out my parents, O God,
for honour with Thee and blessings from Thee,
O Most Merciful of the merciful!

O God,
bless Muhammad and his Household,
teach me through inspiration
knowledge of everything incumbent upon me toward them,
and gather within me
knowledge of all that completely!
Then make me act in accordance
with what Thou hast inspired me
and give me the success to put into practice
the knowledge Thou hast shown to me,
lest I fail to act
according to something Thou hast taught me
or my limbs feel too heavy to perform
that with which Thou hast inspired me!

O God,
bless Muhammad and his Household,
as Thou hast ennobled us through him,
and bless Muhammad and his Household,
as Thou hast made incumbent upon us
rights toward the creatures because of him!113

O God,
fill me with awe of my parents,
the awe one has toward a tyrannical sovereign,
and let me be devoted to them,
with the devotion of a compassionate mother!
Make my obedience and devotion to them
more gladdening to my eyes
than sleep to the drowsy
and more refreshing to my breast
than drink to the thirsty,
so that I may prefer their inclination
to my inclination,
set their satisfaction
before my satisfaction,
make much of their devotion to me
though it be little,
and make little of my devotion to them
though it be great.

O God,
lower before them my voice,
make agreeable to them my words,
make mild before them my temper,
make tender toward them my heart,
and turn me into their kind companion,
their loving friend!

O God,
thank them for my upbringing,
reward them for honouring me,
and guard them as they guarded me in my infancy!

O God,
and whatever harm has touched them from me,
detested thing has reached them from me,
or right of theirs which has been neglected by me,
allow it to alleviate their sins,
raise them in their degrees,
and add to their good deeds!
O He who changes evil deeds into manifold good deeds!114

O God,
whatever word through which they have transgressed against me,
act through which they have been immoderate with me,
right of mine which they have left neglected,
or obligation toward me in which they have fallen short,
I grant it to them
and bestow it upon them,
and I beseech Thee
to remove from them its ill consequence,
for I do not accuse them concerning myself,
find them slow in their devotion toward me,
or dislike the way they have attended to my affairs, my Lord!

They have rights against me which are more incumbent,
precedence in beneficence toward me that is greater,
and kindness toward me that is mightier
than that I should settle accounts with justice
or repay them with equivalents.
Where then, my God, would be their long occupation
with bringing me up?
Where the hardship of their toil
in taking care of me?
Where the stinting of themselves
to provide me with plenty?

What an idea!
I can never discharge their right against me,
fulfil my obligations toward them,
or accomplish the duty of serving them.
So bless Muhammad and his Household
and help me, O Best of those whose help we seek!
Give me success, O Most Guiding of those whom we beseech!
Place me not among the people of disrespect to fathers and mothers
on the day when every soul will be repaid
for what it has earned,
they shall not be wronged.115
O God,
bless Muhammad, his Household, and his progeny
and single out my parents for the best
which Thou hast singled out
for the fathers and mothers of Thy faithful servants,
O Most Merciful of the merciful!

O God,
let me not forget to remember them after my ritual prayers,
at every time throughout my night,
and in each of the hours of my day!

O God,
bless Muhammad and his Household,
forgive me through my supplication for my parents,
forgive them through their devotion toward me
with unfailing forgiveness,
be well pleased with them through my intercession for them
with resolute good pleasure,
and make them reach through Thy generosity
the abodes of safety!

O God,
if Thy forgiveness reaches them first,
make them my intercessors,
and if Thy forgiveness reaches me first,
make me their intercessors,
so that we may gather together through Thy gentleness
in the house of Thy generosity
and the place of Thy forgiveness and mercy!
Verily Thou art Possessor of abounding bounty
and ancient kindness,
and Thou art the Most Merciful of the merciful!
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By Umm.aly
#650
Subhanallah, the words of Our Imam are so beautiful.. May Allah (S.W.T) give us the strength to be good daughters and sons that our parents deserve for all the pain and troubles they went thru to bring us up..

Here is a short namaaz for parents..(whether alive or have passed away)

Namaaz -e- Hadiya -e- Walidayn

Perform 2 rakaat namaaz with the Niyyah of Hadiya -e- walidayn in the following way:

In the first rakaat after Surah al Hamd, recite 10 times:

RABBIGH FIRLI WALI WALIDAYYA WALIL MO'MINEENA YAUMA YAQUUMUL HISAAB

In the second rakaat after Sura Al Hamd, recite 10 times:

RABBIGH FIRLI WALI WALIDAYYA WALIMAN DAKHALA BAITIYA MO'MINAN WALIL MO'MINEENA WAL MO'MINAAT

After salaam recite 10 times:

RABBIR HAM HUMA KAMA RABBAYANI SAGHIRA

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By MuNtAzIr_uk
#747
Salaams all...

When I read the poem about 'Mother', I really felt it... Being in another country, away from my family, has really made me realize the value our parents have in our lives.

I got his email abt a mum from a friend a while back, and I think it sums up all that Mothers are. Its a bit long, but go thru it, and show it to ur mums too :)

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Once upon a time there was a child ready to be born.The child asked God, "They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?"

God replied, "Among the many angels, I chose one for you. Your angel will be waiting for you and will take care of you."

The child further inquired, "But tell me, here in heaven I don't have to do anything but sing and smile to be happy."

God said, "Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you every day. And you will feel your angel's love and be very happy."

Again the child asked, "And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me if I don't know the language?"

God said, "Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak."

"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?"

God said, "Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray."

"I've heard that on Earth there are bad men. Who will protect me?"

God said, "Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life."

"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore."

God said, "Your angel will always talk to you about me and will teach you the way to come back to me, even though I will always be next to you."

At that moment there was much peace in heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly asked, "God, if I am to leave now, please tell me my angel's name."

"Her name is not important. You will simply call her ... Mom."
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I once read a saying, it might not be very islamic, but sums up mums:
''It is said God can't be everywhere, that's why He made mothers.''
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By Sayyeda
#798
Oh that was so touching. It is very true that no one can replace our mothers!
By fsl96
#17418
Very true.

Mothers are just mothers. A strong woman wid alot of feelings.
Sometimes we wonder where does she get this strnth from?

LOV U MUM
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