- 20 Jan 2012, 21:06
#16512
Our Aimmah have said: ‘’four things make kids best/behtareen or worst/badtareen and these are: PARENTS, ENVIROMENT, TEACHERS, HEREDITY/GENES.
From the above 4 things we have talked about parents role in upbringing of their kids, we have also seen how the effects of environment can be controlled through the parents becoming the best friends of their children, as for influence of teachers on kids this is also very important point, as we can see how Yazeed’s son i.e. ‘’Muawiyah 2’’turned out to be totally against his father and didn’t accept the caliphate which he said smelled of the Holy Prophet’s progeny’s blood. He openly criticized his father’s doings infront of the assembly of 25 dignitaries from different countries invited by Yazeed .
How was this possible? The fact is that from a tender age Muawiyah 2 was in the care of a tutor who was a lover of ahlul bayt, as yazeed hardly spent any time with his son hence muawiyah 2 was totally under the care of his tutor at all times hence the influence his tutor had in his upbringing is clearly observed.
For removing the bad effects of heredity/genes one should resort to doas from our Aimmah like sahifa-e-Sajjadiyah doa no 25, prayers for virtuous offspring e.t.c
Salat For Children by the Parents
It is a 4 Rak’at salat. Pray it in 2 sets of 2 Rak’ats each, like Fajr salat with the following adjustments.
Make niyyat of salat for children.
First set
(i) In the first Rak’at, after the recitation of al Fatihah, recite the
following verse 10 times.
رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُّسْلِمَةً لَّكَ وَأَرِنَا مَنَاسِكَنَا وَتُبْ عَلَيْنَا ۖ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ التَّوَّابُ الرَّحِيمُ
Rabbanaa waj-a'lnaa Muslimayni laka wa min d'urriyyatinaaa ummatam muslimatallak wa arinaa manaasikanaa wa tub a'laynaa innaka antat tawwaabur rah'eem
Our Lord, make us both (Muslims) submissive lo You, and of our progeny (make) a group submissive (only) to You, and show us the ways of our devotion, and turn to us (mercifully)'. verily, You and You (alone) are the oft-turning (in mercy), the Merciful.(Sura al-Baqarah, 2 :128).
(ii) In the second Rak’at, after the recitation of al Fatihah, recite 10 times dua"a 26 :
رَبِّ اجْعَلْنِي مُقِيمَ الصَّلاَةِ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِي رَبَّنَا وَتَقَبَّلْ دُعَاء
Rabbij-A’lnee Muqeemas’ S’alaati Wa Min D’urrriyyatee Rabbanaa Wa Taqabbal Du-A’aa
O Lord, make me steadfast in prayer, and (also) some of my offspring. O our Lord, accept my prayer. (Sura Ibrahim, 14: 40).
and du-a"a 27:
رَبَّنَا اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَوْمَ يَقُومُ الْحِسَابُ
Rabbanaghfir Lee Wa Liwaalidayya Wa Lil-Mu’mineena Yawma Yaqoomul H’isaab
O our Lord, forgive me and my parents and believers on the day when the reckoning shall come to pass. (Sura Ibrahim, 14: 41).
Second Set
(i) In the first Rak’at, after the recitation of al Fatihah, recite dua'a 44:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Rabbanaa Hab Lanaa Min Azwaajinaa Wa D’urriyyaatinaa Qurrata A’-Yuniw Waj – A’lnaa Lil – Muttaqeena Imaamaa
O our Lord, grant us out of our wives and our offspring that which cheers our eyes, and make us guides of those who safeguard themselves against evil. (Sura al-Furqan, 25:74).
(ii) In the second Rak’at, after the recitation of al Fatihah, recite duaa 56:
رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَى وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضَاهُ وَأَصْلِحْ لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ
Rabbi Awzi’-Nee An Ashkura Ni’-Matakal Lateee An-A’mta A’layya Wa A’laa Waalidayya Wa An A’-Mala S’aalih’an Tarz”Aahu Wa As’lih’lee Fee D’urriyyatee Innee Tubtu Ilayka Wa Innee Minal Muslimeen.
O Lord, arouse me that I may thank You for the bounties You have bestowed on me and my parents, and that I may do good which pleases You, and do good to me with regard to my offspring. Verily I turn repentant to You, and verily I am one of those who submit. (Sura al-Ahqaaf, 46: 15).
After the salam pray again 10 times dua'a 44:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Rabbanaa Hab Lanaa Min Azwaajinaa Wa D’urriyyaatinaa Qurrata A’-Yuniw Waj – A’lnaa Lil – Muttaqeena Imaamaa
O our Lord, grant us out of our wives and our offspring that which cheers our eyes, and make us guides of those who safeguard themselves against evil. (Sura al-Furqan, 25:74).
This salat makes your children virtuous and obedient.