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By Reyhana
#13668
This came in my email,and i found the lesson derived from it quiet interesting,so posted it here.



Whom to Blame? (Story)




Boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a Loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was Around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle Open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep It in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot The matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by Its colour and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine Meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother Hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She Was terrified how to face her husband.


When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child , He looked at his wife and uttered just five words.


QUESTIONS:

1. What were the five words?

2. What is the implication of this story?



ANSWER :

The husband just said "I am with you Darling"

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive Behaviour.

The Child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.

There is no point In finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to Keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.

No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she Needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would Be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles Begins with a single step." Take off all your envies, jealousies, Unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are Actually not as difficult as you think.



MORAL OF THE STORY :
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, Whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this Way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.
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By sadika
#17129
touching article but if u dnt place responsblty den ppl can get away wit things

like sumone may actually hv hurt sumone knwngly
By fsl96
#17380
hmm true, it is part of responsibility, but its a human mind, we tend to forget. at least we have a support and comfortability in the end then all is well :)
By Fatima88
#20592
I feel it's more like showing empathy. Also, whether to blame or not depends upon the context. Here, the husband could have blamed the wife but then it would have come from his own guilty gnawing at him. The blame should be justified too. And depending how the person treats someone in general/regularly, we can decipher if the harm done was intentional or just a mistake.
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