- 06 Jan 2005, 01:14
#914
I dunno how many of us would actually read this and believe in what this says...As muslims i think we should all try our best to do what our religion permits us to do...Even if u find it hard....
What does Islam say about having Boyfriends or Girlfriends?
Islam strictly forbids us to have any kind of relationship with a Non-Mehram ( people you can get married to). Whether it’s just a friendship relationship or love relationship or even fiancé relationship.
Before Nikkah, no contacts should be indulged between a man and a woman. Cause; remember when two people are alone (a boy and a girl) the third person there is the Satan (Evil), who always encourages you to commit sins and as a result it leads to Jina/Fornication.
And as Muslims we must be knowing that Fornication or Adultery, (sex outside marriage) is Haram in Islam. It is considered to be one of the major sins.
Dear brothers and sisters in Islam, are we so pious that we can afford to carry these sins with us to the Hereafter? If you ask me, I’ll have to say no, because I know that, the weight of my sins are way heavier then my rewards, so therefore I can’t afford to commit those sins, and I am sure neither can you.
Many of us claim that they are not doing anything wrong, just by talking on the phone or chatting on MSN, writing mail or e-mailing, with their boyfriends or girlfriends. But we have to realize that, it is still wrong to do that, because we are still in contact with a non-mehram, which is again strictly prohibited in Islam.
And some others say that it’s ok if they talk to their fiancé or future husband/wife, but what is the guarantee that, this person will end up being your life partner? Then why, waste our jewels or modesty, unnecessarily?
Allah Tallah has mentioned it to us that, “the zina of the ear is what you hear, the zina of the tongue is what you say, the zina of the mind is what you think, the zina of the hand is what you touch, and the zina of the eye is what you see”. Is it still not clear enough that by any sorts of contact we are still committing sins?
By saying “I love you” to any boy/girl, we are committing the zina of our tongue, by hearing something like that from someone, we are committing the zina of our ear, and so on.
So therefore, dear brothers and sisters, its time we wake up and open up our hearts and ears and turn back to Allah’s command. We can’t allow the devil to take over us. The person we sacrifices for the sake of Allah, surely Allah will grant them happiness.
This is especially for Women:
Allah Talla has given us (the women) the best jewel we could have, and that gets lost when we expose it in front of other men. The women’s bodies are like the rose petals and if touched or seened to much over and over again, it will loss its lustre. Would any of us keep our diamonds displayed in public? Then, why is it that we are displaying our bodies to others.
We have to remember that, whatever Allah Talla commanded us to do that is what is best for us.
AND LET ME REMIND U AGAIN CLEARLY THAT ……..
Kissing, not allowed in Islam
Hugging, not allowed in Islam
Talking on the phone with non-mehram, not allowed in Islam
Writing mail… still not allowed in Islam
NOW IT SEEMS TO ME THAT THE POINT IS PRETTY CLEAR DON’T U THINK???
And remember to do Istikhara Salah before you decide to marry anyone, cuz Allah is All-Knowing, and He knows what we know not. Like a person by their Iman, not by how they look, or what they have or what they are.
May Allah Talla give us the ability to stay away from these evil acts and bless us with His Mercy and guide us on the right path. Ameen.
What does Islam say about having Boyfriends or Girlfriends?
Islam strictly forbids us to have any kind of relationship with a Non-Mehram ( people you can get married to). Whether it’s just a friendship relationship or love relationship or even fiancé relationship.
Before Nikkah, no contacts should be indulged between a man and a woman. Cause; remember when two people are alone (a boy and a girl) the third person there is the Satan (Evil), who always encourages you to commit sins and as a result it leads to Jina/Fornication.
And as Muslims we must be knowing that Fornication or Adultery, (sex outside marriage) is Haram in Islam. It is considered to be one of the major sins.
Dear brothers and sisters in Islam, are we so pious that we can afford to carry these sins with us to the Hereafter? If you ask me, I’ll have to say no, because I know that, the weight of my sins are way heavier then my rewards, so therefore I can’t afford to commit those sins, and I am sure neither can you.
Many of us claim that they are not doing anything wrong, just by talking on the phone or chatting on MSN, writing mail or e-mailing, with their boyfriends or girlfriends. But we have to realize that, it is still wrong to do that, because we are still in contact with a non-mehram, which is again strictly prohibited in Islam.
And some others say that it’s ok if they talk to their fiancé or future husband/wife, but what is the guarantee that, this person will end up being your life partner? Then why, waste our jewels or modesty, unnecessarily?
Allah Tallah has mentioned it to us that, “the zina of the ear is what you hear, the zina of the tongue is what you say, the zina of the mind is what you think, the zina of the hand is what you touch, and the zina of the eye is what you see”. Is it still not clear enough that by any sorts of contact we are still committing sins?
By saying “I love you” to any boy/girl, we are committing the zina of our tongue, by hearing something like that from someone, we are committing the zina of our ear, and so on.
So therefore, dear brothers and sisters, its time we wake up and open up our hearts and ears and turn back to Allah’s command. We can’t allow the devil to take over us. The person we sacrifices for the sake of Allah, surely Allah will grant them happiness.
This is especially for Women:
Allah Talla has given us (the women) the best jewel we could have, and that gets lost when we expose it in front of other men. The women’s bodies are like the rose petals and if touched or seened to much over and over again, it will loss its lustre. Would any of us keep our diamonds displayed in public? Then, why is it that we are displaying our bodies to others.
We have to remember that, whatever Allah Talla commanded us to do that is what is best for us.
AND LET ME REMIND U AGAIN CLEARLY THAT ……..
Kissing, not allowed in Islam
Hugging, not allowed in Islam
Talking on the phone with non-mehram, not allowed in Islam
Writing mail… still not allowed in Islam
NOW IT SEEMS TO ME THAT THE POINT IS PRETTY CLEAR DON’T U THINK???
And remember to do Istikhara Salah before you decide to marry anyone, cuz Allah is All-Knowing, and He knows what we know not. Like a person by their Iman, not by how they look, or what they have or what they are.
May Allah Talla give us the ability to stay away from these evil acts and bless us with His Mercy and guide us on the right path. Ameen.