The decision to marry is one of great importance. How early should this decision be made? How early is too early? And everythign else about marriage
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Postby Zuly » 11 Jul 2005, 23:18


A person visited the government matchmaker for
marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a
spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The
SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh,
good looking, polite, humorous , sporty,
knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to
accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me
interesting stories when I need companion for
conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The
officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand
you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be
found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because
the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband
and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the
wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting
stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.
Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off,
they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed
of roses. The nightmare begins.


Many relationships fail because one party tries to
overpower another,or demands too much. People in love
tend to think that love will conquer all and their
spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese
saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to
reshape a mountain or a river than a person's

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high
expectation on changing the spouse character will
cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower
our expectations..


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