Yaz wrote:I personally feel that the marriage ceremonies and celebration are a one time thing or atleast thats what we all are projected towards when we get married. So, I feel that one should try to do the best to their ability. The real problem comes when you are "competing" with someone and are limited on resources - that's the point which will separate the luxury from the needs and the needs from the wants class.
Depending on the guests and budget, I think you should always take pride in whatever way you wish to celebrate.
What Yaz has described affects everyone, some more than others.
So if there is a wealthy family, they can afford all the luxury of celebration, and usually end up in committing sin(s) in the name of celebration, in effect reducing the blessings of nikah.
Those who are not well to do have to end up worrying about what people will say, what the in-laws and other relatives will talk about etc etc.
I feel the only solution is if the wealthy start having the simplest marriages. Both the above issues will then be solved.