- 14 Mar 2007, 21:58
#9562
By Aadila Moloo
The most common question among our youth today is, Are Muslims allowed to date?
“Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world today does not exist among Muslims - where a young man and a woman (or boy/girl) are in a one-on-one intimate relationship, spending time together alone, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they will marry. Rather, in Islam pre-marital relationships of any kind between members of the opposite sex is forbidden.
A man and a woman are not allowed to be alone together, and any kind of physical contact before marriage is forbidden. Hence, Dating is not permitted in Islam.
But the big question is, why cant Muslims Date?
Islam being the perfect religion it is always gives laws which are in accordance with the “fitrat” or nature of Human beings. All the laws of Islam have a way a protecting the rites of both men and women.
Let us examine the problems the people who date face. Most couples who date, expect that their relationship will end in marriage, but there is no way of knowing whether a certain person is just having fun and playing with the other person, who might be very serious. We have heard of many cases where women gets pregnant before marriage and are left by their boyfriends to be single parents or also men/women who get into depression, start doing drugs or commit suicide because their boyfriend/girlfriend left them.
Islam on the other hand only allows men and women to “date” per se, if the intention of both parties is marriage and that also in controlled situations, where they both must lower their gaze and guard their modesty. The Prophet (SAW) also reportedly said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan (Shaytan) is the third among them". When young people are getting to know each other for marriage purposes, being alone together is a temptation toward wrongdoing. They both must therefore be very careful and guard their modesty.
Islam recognizes that we are human and are given to human weakness, so these rules provide safeguards for our own sake. Muslim youths must therefore have a marriage oriented culture
Islam does not restrict our life rather it helps us to regulate our life as Sheikh Jehad said.
May Allah (SWT) give us all the “tawfiq” to be modest and pious. Amen
The most common question among our youth today is, Are Muslims allowed to date?
“Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world today does not exist among Muslims - where a young man and a woman (or boy/girl) are in a one-on-one intimate relationship, spending time together alone, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they will marry. Rather, in Islam pre-marital relationships of any kind between members of the opposite sex is forbidden.
A man and a woman are not allowed to be alone together, and any kind of physical contact before marriage is forbidden. Hence, Dating is not permitted in Islam.
But the big question is, why cant Muslims Date?
Islam being the perfect religion it is always gives laws which are in accordance with the “fitrat” or nature of Human beings. All the laws of Islam have a way a protecting the rites of both men and women.
Let us examine the problems the people who date face. Most couples who date, expect that their relationship will end in marriage, but there is no way of knowing whether a certain person is just having fun and playing with the other person, who might be very serious. We have heard of many cases where women gets pregnant before marriage and are left by their boyfriends to be single parents or also men/women who get into depression, start doing drugs or commit suicide because their boyfriend/girlfriend left them.
Islam on the other hand only allows men and women to “date” per se, if the intention of both parties is marriage and that also in controlled situations, where they both must lower their gaze and guard their modesty. The Prophet (SAW) also reportedly said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan (Shaytan) is the third among them". When young people are getting to know each other for marriage purposes, being alone together is a temptation toward wrongdoing. They both must therefore be very careful and guard their modesty.
Islam recognizes that we are human and are given to human weakness, so these rules provide safeguards for our own sake. Muslim youths must therefore have a marriage oriented culture
Islam does not restrict our life rather it helps us to regulate our life as Sheikh Jehad said.
May Allah (SWT) give us all the “tawfiq” to be modest and pious. Amen