Love Vs Arrange Marriage

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Love Vs Arranged Marriage... Which one is better ?

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Love Vs Arrange Marriage

Postby keenfarhan » 02 Mar 2007, 16:13

Im not sure if this topic has already been discussed on here or not... if it has then pardon me as i wasnt much active before... if it hasnt... then y? Coz this is one of the most common discussions whenever the issue of marriage comes up... So what do u ppl think? Which one is better...

To make things clearer let me just define what i think is love marriage and what is arranged...

Love - When the guy and girls know each other pretty much very well from school or something like that and they talk to their parents regarding marriage ( love is for lack of a better term )

Arranged - When the parents choose the spouse for their children.. can be someone the child just knows or doesnt know at all..
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Postby abuali » 02 Mar 2007, 20:52

As per those definitions, arranged doesnt happen anymore...maybe in very remote villages or cultures...

I have a term for what you have described as Love marriage...I call it Semi-arranged marriage.

Correct me if I am wrong.
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Postby qarrar » 03 Mar 2007, 01:53

hasin wrote:As per those definitions, arranged doesnt happen anymore...maybe in very remote villages or cultures...

I am not entirely sure about that…

Semi arranged marriage would be a better term, so we end up with three categories:

i. Love marriage; were marriage is a mere formality to give the relationship a decent title.
ii. Semi arranged; I would add to keenfarhan’s definition that the guy and girl could have liked each other from before but are only not ‘involved’.
iii. Arranged; that like factor I mentioned above could have a bearing on this category as-well, perhaps not from both sides, only just one.
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