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The decision to marry is one of great importance. How early should this decision be made? How early is too early? And everythign else about marriage
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By Zuly
#4855
6 weeks , 6 months, 6 years
After mariage how couples behave !


Dating process:
6 weeks : I love U, I love U, I love U.
6 months : Of course I love U.
6 years : GOD, if I didn't love U, then why the hell did I propose?

Back from Work:
6 weeks : Honey, I'm home.
6 months : BACK!!
6 years : What did your mom cook for us today??

Gifts:
6 weeks : Honey, I really hope you liked the ring.
6 months : I bought you a painting; it would fit the motif in the living room.
6 years : Here's the money. Buy yourself something.

Phone Ringing:
6 weeks : Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
6 months : Here, for you.
6 years : PHONE RINGING.

Cooking:
6 weeks : I never knew food could taste so good!
6 months : What are we having for dinner tonight?
6 years : AGAIN!!!!

Apology:
6 weeks : Honey muffin, don't you worry, Ill never hold this against you.
6 months : Watch out! Don't do it again.
6 years : What's not to understand about what I just said??

New Dress:
6 weeks : Oh my God, you look like an angel in that dress.
6 months : You bought a new dress again???
6 years :How much did THAT cost me?

Planning for Vacations:
6 weeks : How do 2 weeks in Vienna or anywhere you please sound??
6 months : What's so bad about going to Istanbul on a charter plane?
6 years : Travel? What's so bad about staying home???

TV:
6 weeks : Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
6 months : I like this movie.
6 years : I'm going to watch ESPN, if you're not in the mood, go to bed, I
can stay up by myself.

So what are you thinking.. going to be married.. aur want to live still
alone...LOL

Zuly
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By Aliyah
#4883
Assalamun alaykum,

Well the above is a western style of marriage unlike an islamic marriage!!!!

Shukran

Somaiya
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By Tanveer
#9663
Aliyah wrote:Assalamun alaykum,

Well the above is a western style of marriage unlike an islamic marriage!!!!
Not necessarily. Aren't the youth of our community becoming more and more western type these days? The media is surely brainwashing our minds with such ideas and today that's exactly how the youth think about marriage. They expect the life after marriage to be just like they have envisioned in their minds and ofcourse, these imaginations pop up in our minds after being exposed too much to reading books that talk about such things or movies that show such programs regarding marriage!!

Thanks for sharing the humor though!! We pray to the Almighty to instill piety and awareness in our youth and to give them the ability to differentiate between lives portrayed through the media and the Islamic way of living!! Aameen.
#15418
Aliyah wrote:Assalamun alaykum,



Well the above is a western style of marriage unlike an islamic marriage!!!!



Shukran



Somaiya
I've seen my friends go through similar transmissions in their married life. But not all. Majority have dealt very well with marriage and are happily married.

I wonder why things change?
#17321
Salaam

Instead of starting a new topic I thought of using the same to discuss something that I recently discussed with a newly married couple which I found quite interesting.

They felt that after marriage, their approach to non-mahrams had changed a lot. In the sense that even though they were interacting on a purely need to basis with the na-mahrams, they still felt that they now felt a bit more responsible in their approach keeping in mind that they had a spouse who would not like it if there was more indulgence in the interaction with the namahrams.

It was quite different before marriage, when they were both carefree, even though the same law would apply.

Food for thought or what? [up]

Would you agree? Disagree? Think its fair? Too extreme?

Do you think this applies to only women? Or both? Neither?

Do comment! 8)

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